Grief is a natural part of life, but when it shows up in the workplace, it’s often overlooked or misunderstood. Many of us think of grief as something that only happens after a bereavement—but in fact, there are over 40 life events that can trigger feelings of loss, including divorce, redundancy, illness, or major life changes.

And here’s something most people don’t realise: grief is cumulative. Each unresolved loss can build upon the last, making it harder to cope over time.

My Story: When Grief Came to Work With Me

When I was 13, my mum died during a family holiday. I didn’t have the tools, knowledge or support to deal with it properly. A kind neighbour told me not to cry and to be strong for my siblings—advice I followed for years, unknowingly burying my grief.

Then, at 30, my older brother died suddenly from a massive heart attack. The coping strategies I’d clung to failed me. I was overwhelmed.

Back at work, my colleagues initially offered sympathy, then expected me to carry on as normal. But I wasn’t functioning. I struggled to concentrate, make decisions, or complete everyday tasks. Eventually, a more experienced colleague suggested I take some time off. I ended up resigning and going travelling to find space to heal.

Looking back, it wasn’t just the grief that led me to leave—it was the lack of understanding, support, and structure at work that made it harder to stay.

Why Hidden Grief at Work Matters

Many people feel they have to hide their grief at work—fearing judgment, shame, or the pressure to remain "professional". But hidden grief carries a real cost for individuals and organisations.

The impact of unrecognised grief in the workplace:

• Reduced performance
  Grief can affect memory, focus, and emotional regulation. Distracted or disengaged employees may struggle to meet expectations. For those in leadership roles, the ripple effect can be significant.

• Absenteeism and presenteeism
  Some grieving employees push themselves to show up even when they’re not coping. Others feel guilty for taking time off. In both cases, productivity suffers—and wellbeing does too.

• Low morale and strained team dynamics
  Grief can be isolating. Colleagues may feel unsure of what to say, avoid the person grieving, or take on extra tasks without understanding why. This leads to tension, disconnection, or even resentment.

• Higher risk of mental health issues
  Unprocessed grief can lead to depression, anxiety, or burnout. When someone feels they must “hold it together”, they’re less likely to seek support—until things reach a breaking point.

• Loss of valuable team members
  When employees don’t feel supported, they leave. The emotional cost is high—but so is the financial cost of recruitment, onboarding, and lost knowledge.

What Can Employers Do?

Addressing grief in the workplace isn’t about fixing people—it’s about creating an environment where grief is acknowledged, supported, and understood.

Here’s how organisations can take meaningful action:

1. Foster a Culture of Openness

Leaders set the tone. When they acknowledge the emotional impact of grief—and even share their own challenges—it gives permission for others to do the same. Being open isn’t weakness; it builds trust.

2. Have Clear Policies and Action Plans

Grief support shouldn't be guesswork. Employers need clear, compassionate policies that outline what happens when an employee experiences a loss. Knowing there’s a plan in place can offer enormous relief in an already stressful time.

3. Offer the Right Resources

Traditional counselling doesn’t suit everyone. Consider step-by-step, action-based programmes that provide practical tools and structure for managing grief. Employee Assistance Programmes (EAPs) can also include access to specialist grief support.

4. Be Flexible

Simple adjustments—like reduced hours, hybrid working, or phased returns—can make a world of difference. Flexibility shows care and promotes recovery.

5. Train Managers and Team Leaders

Most managers want to help but feel unsure how. Training helps them recognise the signs of grief, communicate sensitively, and avoid common mistakes like minimising the loss or rushing someone back to work.

Grief-Smart Workplaces Are Stronger Workplaces

When grief is handled well at work, everyone benefits. Employees feel seen, valued, and safe. Teams stay connected. Turnover is reduced. And organisations become more resilient in the face of life’s inevitable challenges.

Because grief is part of being human—and where people work, grief walks in with them.

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