The Complete Grief Support Toolkit
Finally Know Exactly What to Say When Someone You Love Is Grieving
A Practical Guide to Supporting Someone Through Loss (Without Ever Feeling Helpless Again)
By Ghulam Fernandes, Grief Transformation Coach
Before Black Friday Launch
Someone You Care About Is Grieving Right Now
And if you're here, you probably feel a bit stuck.
Maybe you've sent that "thinking of you" text but don't know what to say next.
Maybe you're avoiding them because you're worried about making things worse.
Maybe you lie awake wondering how to help but feel rather useless.
Here's what I want you to know: you're not useless. You just need the right tools.
That's exactly what this guide gives you.
What's Inside This Complete Toolkit
The Main Guide (40+ pages of practical advice)
All 10 common mistakes and exactly what to say instead (with real examples)
Word-for-word phrases for every situation, from the first conversation to a year later
How to offer help that actually helps (not vague promises they'll never take you up on)
A clear timeline showing exactly when and how to check in
Guidance for different types of loss: death, divorce, job loss, health diagnosis, and more
Emergency Response Scripts (printable)
What to say when someone mentions suicide, completely breaks down in front of you, or gets angry at you for trying to help. The crisis moments when most people freeze.
Emergency Phrase Book (printable)
When you're standing there not knowing what to say, just pull it out. Best phrases, what never to say, support timeline, and emergency numbers all in one place.
30 Days of Check-In Messages
Ready-to-use message examples you can copy, personalise, and send. No more staring at your phone wondering what to write.
Self-Care Guidance
Warning signs you're taking on too much, how to set healthy boundaries, and when you need support too.
What Makes This Different
You can find general grief advice anywhere. Google will tell you to "be supportive" and "be there for them."
But that doesn't help when you're actually standing in front of someone who's crying and you've got no
idea what to do next.
This guide is different because it gives you:
Exact phrases you can use word-for-word – not vague suggestions, but actual things to say
A complete system from day one through to year one – so you know exactly when to check in and what to offer
Scripts for the scariest moments – not just the easy conversations, but what to do when things get really hard
Guidance for all types of grief – because it's not just about death. Job loss, divorce, illness, and other big changes all trigger grief too
Protection for your own wellbeing – so you can help without burning yourself out
Bottom line: This isn't theory. It's practical, proven guidance you can use immediately.
A Personal Note from Ghulam
When my friend's mum died, I desperately wanted to help. But I froze.
I sent one text saying "I'm here if you need anything" then avoided her for weeks. I didn't know what to say. I was terrified of making things worse.
That mistake haunted me for years. It's why I became a Certified Grief Specialist. It's why I spent years learning what actually helps when someone's world falls apart. And that's why I created this guide.
This isn't just professional advice. It's born from my own stumbles, from supporting hundreds of clients through their grief journeys, and from training professionals in grief care.
Here's what most people don't realise: grief isn't just about death. Over 40 life events trigger grief. Divorce, job loss, illness, retirement, empty nest, miscarriage, becoming a victim of crime. All of these leave people feeling lost and alone.
You don't need to be a counsellor to make a real difference. You just need to care and have practical tools you can actually use.
That's what this guide gives you.
A Quick Look at What You'll Learn
The 3 Biggest Mistakes (and How to Fix Them Right Now)
Mistake 1: "I'm Here If You Need Anything"
Then disappearing because they never ask. People dealing with grief often can't ask for help. They don't want to burden you.
What to do instead: "I'm going to Tesco on Tuesday. What can I pick up for you?"
Specific offers work. Vague ones don't.
Mistake 2: Trying to Cheer Them Up
"At least they lived a long life" or "They're in a better place." This makes them feel like you don't understand their pain.
What to say instead: "This is awful. I'm so sorry this happened."
Acknowledge how hard it is. Don't try to silver-line it.
Mistake 3: Disappearing After Two Weeks
The hardest part comes after everyone else moves on and life "goes back to normal" for everyone except them.
What to do instead: Follow the support timeline in this guide. Daily check-ins for weeks 1-2, then weekly, then monthly. Show up for the long haul.
These are just 3 of the 10 mistakes covered in the complete guide. Each one includes specific examples of exactly what to say instead, word for word.
Here's What Happens After You Get This Guide
Immediately:
You download everything and have it on your device within minutes.
In the first 5 minutes:
You read the first section and spot the biggest mistake you've been making (and how to fix it today).
Within the hour:
You send one message using a phrase from the guide. It lands well. They respond. You feel relief wash over you.
By tomorrow:
You know exactly what to do next. No more lying awake worrying. No more avoiding them because you don't know what to say.
Over the coming weeks:
You show up consistently with the right words at the right time. They tell you, "I don't know how I'd have got through this without you."
And you'll know you made a real difference when they needed it most.
"Can't I just Google this?"
You could. But here's the difference:
Google gives you vague advice like "be supportive." This gives you actual phrases you can use word for word.
Google gives you random tips. This gives you a complete system from day one through to months later.
Google can't prepare you for crisis moments. This guide has emergency scripts for when they mention suicide or break down completely.
Google gives you information. This gives you confidence.
You can keep googling and hoping. Or spend £27 and actually know what to do.
What People Are Saying
"Ghulam taught me how to manage my emotions, pain, and sadness. I learned to deal with much more than just the loss of my husband. Her professional, caring, and considerate approach made all the difference."
– Pascale, Retired Teacher
"The tools and processes I learned were a game-changer. They helped me visualise my emotions and significantly improved my focus and decision-making. This programme made a real difference in both my personal healing and professional performance."
– Ravi, Cybersecurity Architect
"Working with Ghulam was profound. I learned to manage my emotions more effectively and gained lifelong tools for handling grief. She taught me to create moments of joy and prioritise self-care, empowering me to give more to my clients and mentees."
– Natalie, Business Strategist and Performance Mentor
Your Complete Toolkit Includes
The Main Guide (40+ pages)
All 10 common mistakes and exactly what to do instead. What to say when you first hear the news, when they're having a tough day, when they want to talk. How to offer help that actually helps. When to step back. How to look after yourself while supporting them.
Emergency Phrase Book (printable)
When you're standing there not knowing what to say, just pull it out. Best phrases, what never to say, support timeline, emergency numbers.
Emergency Response Scripts (printable)
What to say when someone mentions suicide, completely breaks down, or gets angry at you. The crisis moments when you might freeze.
30 Days of Check-In Messages
Ready-to-use message examples. Just copy, personalise, and send. No more struggling to find the right words.
Bonus: Self-Care Guidance
Warning signs you're taking on too much, boundary-setting scripts, quick self-care practices. Because you need to protect your own wellbeing whilst helping others.
Total Value: Over £150
Your Price Today: £27
(One-time payment. Yours forever. No subscription.)
Your Questions Answered
"What if I've already made these mistakes?"
Most people have. It's never too late to change your approach. The guide shows you how to course-correct, even if you've been doing things wrong for weeks or months.
"Will this work for different types of loss?"
Yes. It covers death, relationship breakdown, job loss, health diagnosis, and other major life changes. Each type gets specific guidance because they need slightly different support.
"I'm already supporting someone. Is it too late?"
Not at all. Whether they lost someone yesterday or six months ago, this helps you support them better from now on. You'll probably spot some mistakes you're making right now and be able to fix them immediately.
"How quickly will I get access?"
Instantly. Download links arrive the moment payment goes through. You can be reading in the next two minutes.
"What if this doesn't help me?"
Then I'll refund every penny within 30 days, no questions asked. But keep everything anyway. The guide, the scripts, the templates, all of it. Why? Because I know this works. I've seen it help thousands of people. You literally cannot lose.
30-Day Money-Back Guarantee
(Better Than Risk-Free)
If this doesn't help you feel more confident, email me within 30 days for a full refund.
No questions asked.
But keep everything anyway. The guide, the scripts, the templates, everything.
Why? Because I know this works. I've seen it help thousands of people.
You literally cannot lose.
The Truth About Waiting
Every day you put this off is another day of:
Avoiding someone who needs you
Sending useless texts that help no one
Missing opportunities to make a real difference
Letting someone you love feel alone
You're here because you want to help. You just need the tools.
£27 for lifetime access. Plus free bonus workbook for 48 hours.
Plus keep everything even if you get a refund.
Someone you love is suffering right now. Today is the day you show up properly.
About Ghulam Fernandes
Ghulam is a Grief Transformation Coach and founder of Handling Grief. Drawing on her personal experience of several bereavements, multiple losses and professional training, she helps people navigate their grief journeys with compassion and practical tools.
Her approach focuses on transforming pain into power and purpose, offering step-by-step guidance that helps clients move forward after loss without spending years stuck in pain or therapy.
When she's not supporting clients, Ghulam finds peace photographing flowers at Kew Gardens and treasures time with her family, especially visits to The Horniman Museum with her grandchildren.
P.S. Right now, someone you love is suffering. This guide gives you the exact words to use in every situation. Stop putting it off. Get it now for £27 and reach out today with confidence.
P.P.S. Remember the 48-hour bonus. Get the Supporter's Self-Care Workbook free if you buy now. After that, it's gone.
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