How to Support Someone Through Grief and Loss (Without Making Things Worse)
Finally Know Exactly What to Say When Someone You Care About is Grieving
A practical guide to supporting someone through loss - because your presence matters more than perfect words
EXCLUSIVE BONUS: Download this guide and receive:
✅ Emergency Phrase Book
Printable card with essential phrases to keep in your purse or wallet for when words feel impossible
✅ Emergency Response Scripts
What to say when someone mentions suicide, breaks down completely, or gets angry at your support attempts
✅ Private Facebook Community
Access to our community of people supporting others through grief
Are you supporting someone who's experiencing loss?
💭 You want to support someone who's experiencing grief
Your heart breaks for them and you desperately want to help, but you're not sure how
😰 You're worried about saying or doing the wrong thing
You keep putting off reaching out because you might make them feel worse or bring up painful memories
🤝 You want to avoid common pitfalls in offering support
You've heard stories of well-meaning people who accidentally caused more pain by saying things like "you mustn't cry, you got to be strong for your family"
Supporting someone through grief can feel overwhelming, but your presence can make a significant difference. This guide is for you if you want to be truly helpful without making things worse.
Here's what you need to know:
Grief isn't just about death. There are over 40 life events that can trigger grief – divorce, job loss, illness, empty nest, pet loss, miscarriage, and many other changes that leave us feeling lost.
You don't need to be a trained counsellor, therapist or Grief Specialist to make a real difference.
You just need to care and have a few practical tools in your toolkit.
What You'll Learn
The 10 Things That Make Grief Worse (And What to Do Instead)
Learn exactly what not to say and do, with specific examples and better alternatives that actually help
Your Emergency Phrase Book: What to Say When Words Feel Impossible
Quick reference guide with specific phrases for different types of loss and stages of grief
The Warning Signs You Can't Ignore (When to Call for Backup)
How to recognise when someone needs professional help and what to say to encourage them to get it
Your Step-by-Step Support Plan (From Day One to Year One)
How to provide consistent support beyond the initial crisis, with specific check-in schedules
Different Types of Loss May Need Different Support
Tailored approaches for death, relationship breakdown, job loss, health diagnosis, and other significant losses
Are You Really Ready to Help? (An Honest Self-Check)
How to maintain your own wellbeing whilst caring for others, including warning signs you need support
What People Are Saying
"Ghulam taught me how to manage my emotions, pain, and sadness. I learned to deal with much more than just the loss of my husband. Her professional, caring, and considerate approach made all the difference."
– Pascale, Retired Teacher
"The tools and processes I learned were a game-changer. They helped me visualise my emotions and significantly improved my focus and decision-making. This programme made a real difference in both my personal healing and professional performance."
– Ravi, Cybersecurity Architect
"Working with Ghulam was profound. I learned to manage my emotions more effectively and gained lifelong tools for handling grief. She taught me to create moments of joy and prioritise self-care, empowering me to give more to my clients and mentees."
– Natalie, Business Strategist and Performance Mentor
About Ghulam Fernandes
Ghulam is a Grief Transformation Coach and founder of Handling Grief. Drawing on her personal experience of several bereavements, multiple losses and professional training, she helps people navigate their grief journeys with compassion and practical tools.
Her approach focuses on transforming pain into power and purpose, offering step-by-step guidance that helps clients move forward after loss without spending years stuck in pain or therapy.
When she's not supporting clients, Ghulam finds peace photographing flowers at Kew Gardens and treasures time with her family, especially visits to The Horniman Museum with her grandchildren.
Take the First Step Towards Being a Compassionate and Effective Supporter
Download the free guide now and learn how to support someone through grief and loss without making things worse.
"Grief is love with nowhere to go. Let's find new places to put that love together." - Jamie Anderson
